What To Do And Where To Go On That First Trip With A Romance Partner

Debbie Nigro interviews Executive Editor Don Mazzella

Editor’s Note: TravelForSmall
Biz.com was asked by Debbie Nigro, President of the First Wives group to offer its editors’ thoughts on what to do when a divorced individual considers going away on a trip with a partner they are romantically involved with for the first time. The editors asked a number of women what they thought were the critical issues facing them when they are faced with that first trip.  The feedback received was illuminating and is shared below.

For many individuals getting back into the dating and romance game, that first trip with a new partner can be difficult and fraught with many obstacles.

Many respondents said a  “trip” is anything over three days while a “weekend away” should always precede that first trip.

They suggested that a weekend trip before any longer treks are attempted is a good way to learn about a partner.

Often, these respondents said, a weekend will show you a lot of about the other person.

If you had fun that weekend, then you can think about a longer vacation together.

A longer trip will cement that positive feeling and often show just what you and that “other person” have in common and can agree to disagree but still continue the relationship.

Visitors to www.travelforsmallbiz.com said that there are 10 do’s and seven don’ts to think about.

Here are the seven don’ts.

1. Don’t bring any children along.
2. Don’t go to someplace you went with your former spouse.
3. Don’t go there without a reservation for at least the first two nights.
4. Don’t take a plane ride of more than five hours.
5. Don’t go to a romantic, small island where you can’t get away from each other at least a little bit.
6. Don’t go someplace that demands endurance, strength, and cooperation all the time.
7. Don’t go visit relatives – yours or his.

Here are some do’s to consider:

1. Do agree on the place you want to go before leaving and make sure both parties want to go there.
2. Do agree on the length of time but not more than seven days.
3. Do go to a place that has lots of different activities, not all of which you do together.
4. Do agree on who is paying what major expenses before you leave.
5. Do go to a bigger hotel, no Bed-and-Breakfast or small intimate locations.
6. Do at least one guided tour together.
7. Do agree as to who is the driver, who is the navigator.
8. Do agree on how much luggage to take.
9. Do agree on both taking appropriate medical shots and know each other’s ailments.
10. Do have medical evacuation insurance and know each other’s emergency contacts.

Here is respondents’ list of the best places to go for the first trip:

1. St. Marten
2. Bermuda
3. Canada --- Montreal, Nova Scotia, Vancouver
4. Boston
5. Connecticut – Mystic Seaport, Mohegan Sun, Seashore.
6. Mountains: Berkshires-Rocky Mountains
7. Rocky Mountains: Aspen
8. Pacific northwest – Seattle, Portland, Mt. Ranier
9. Dublin, Ireland
10.  San Diego
11. Arizona: Camelback, Sedona,

If you insist on going to Europe go to Copenhagen, Stockholm, Germany

Definite places not to go:

1. Las Vegas
2. Paris
3. London
4. Mexico
5. Yucatan – central America
6. Work or science (Archeology) locations

For more on this subject and to see an interview of Editorial Director, Donald Mazzella by  Debbie Nigro, author of The First Wives book, go to www.firstwivesworld.com.

If you have thoughts on this subject, email editor@travelforsmallbiz.com.

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